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Is this what “me too” is about?

I was reading the buzz about Aziz Ansari and wondered: does #metoo include bad dates with bad sex that one later regrets? If so, I’ll change my view on the movement.

This “kiss, didn’t like it and tell” sort of reminds me of the time when Gawker humiliated Christine O’Donnell though the guy in question didn’t claim coercion.

Workout notes weights (usual pt) and 2 mile treadmill run after. Treadmill: every 3: 5.0-5.1-5.2-5.3 to 1 mile, then 6.7 to 6.8 in the final quarter.
The run was sharp but doable.

Weights: pull ups (5 sets of 10), bench press; 10 x 135, 1 x 190 (felt bad), 5 x 185, 7 x 175, incline: 10 x 135, military (dumbbell) 10 x 50, 10 x 50 (second set felt bad..needed 2 tries) 10 x 180 machine (90 each side), rows: 2 sets of 10 x 50 dumbbell single arm, 10 x 110 machine.
I was achy again.

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January 15, 2018 Posted by | running, social/political, weight training | | Leave a comment

We’ll never be together but maybe we can do better?

I am sort of “out of sorts” with politics lately. Some of it is that Trump is so unhinged and incoherent at times; there are times when he doesn’t even seem to understand the policies he is advocating for.

Some of it might be my age and station in life; so little of what is in the current news affects me directly anymore. I say “directly” because some bad policy might have harmful effects that show up later (e. g. economic stimulus at the bottom of the economy tends to filter up, inaction or weak action on climate change might (probably?) will lead to terrible effects later, etc.)

And as far as discussing things with others: forget about it. It appears that those most eager to talk well, really don’t know what they are talking about. 🙂

From the current right wing:

And the stuff about Russia and possible collusion (and yes, there is something to this) will NOT be believed on the other side; they will see it as the the usual “political mudslinging” that always goes on.

And we’ve got fights on our own side as well. There is some pushback to the more extremist elements of the “me too” movement, as well as counter push backs.

Yes, I’ve seen workplace groping incidents and no one wants a return to those days (I think). And yes, the workplace should be a place for work. But aside from that, there IS a difference between socially inept attempts to flirt and sexual harassment. Yes, many women know the difference. Not all do.

I’ve had some female friends …friends who HAVE been sexually assaulted in the past…tell me that a lot of this feminist stuff “does not speak to them”.
I’d be interested to know what percentage of women have heard of “me too” and what percentage of women have heard of it but do not embrace it. I do NOT have data here.

And yes, I do wonder if political correctness (which is NOT mere politeness) has harmed us. I think that Steven Pinker is right on here (though this is simplified, as it has to be as it is only 8 minutes long)

Oh well…off to run a bit.

Last night I just KILLED it at yoga class. Ok..maybe not so much; I almost toppled over in some relatively “basic” poses. I need to practice more.

January 11, 2018 Posted by | politics, politics/social, social/political, yoga | , | Leave a comment

Not me. Ever.

I’ve been following the “Me too” thing and, well, I wonder exactly what that means. Of course, being pressured for sex from a boss certainly counts, or being assaulted.

I know that when I was a young teen, we sometimes slapped girls on the butt (sometimes they got us back) but that eventually ended as we matured. I don’t know if that counts.

So, as an adult I had to say “Not me.” But…
I do remember a time when a gym worker that I had made small talk with swatted my butt unexpectedly. But I didn’t see that as a big deal; I never felt threatened or even annoyed; in fact, I think we saw a movie together (at a later time). I saw that as a clumsy attempt at the romance game.

But were it a guy just smacking a woman’s ass …would that have counted as “me too”?

Note: in my case, there was NO “power difference”; I was perfectly capable of saying “don’t do that again, else I will report you..”, etc. Then again, I was physically stronger than she was; in fact, much more so. I was not afraid of her by any means.

And yes, I know that there are guys who have been abused in this manner including some physically intimidating guys (example, example) It can happen to anyone, though statistically speaking, it happens to women more often.

Workout notes: Monday, weights. Crowded; physical therapy, pull ups (5 sets of 10: good), incline press: 10 x 135, 4 x 160, 8 x 150, military press: standing: 10 x 50, 10 x 45, machine: 10 x 90 (each arm), machine rows: 3 sets of 10 x 110. then light yoga, including headstand.

Tuesday: easy 10K plus in Bradley Park; saw a couple of deer on the hill near Cornstalk. Fall weather!

October 17, 2017 Posted by | social/political, walking, weight training, yoga | | Leave a comment