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How science could help workplace and social relations…

One of my favorite twitter people is Prof Helen. She is an expert on health care policy and a professor at Cal-Berkeley, one of the finest R-1 universities in the world. So when she says something, I take it very seriously.

The subject of “me too” (sexual harassment and sexual assault) has been in the news lately and Prof Helen said this:

This reminded me of this blog post by Marta Iglesias:

It is my goal to explain why the causes of male and female difference are not merely cultural or the product of patriarchal indoctrination. Separate athletic competitions and distinct medical disciplines of gynaecology and urology testify to the most obvious biological differences between men and women. But the scientific method − a co-operative, critical, and self-correcting process which has midwifed huge technological and medical advances − can also help us to understand more subtle differences between the sexes in interests and aspirations. And it is understanding what we really are that will make us free.

Now this is NOT a “well, boys will be boys ergo we should just accept certain behavior”. It is more like this: statistically speaking, male brains are wired a different way. We are hard wired to view women, at least in part, sexually. Here is a joke meme along those lines (involving yoga class)

But FEELING does not excuse actions; we are men, not rabbits. Sexual harassment is unacceptable, period. It is up to men to adjust and to treat women fairly.

And yes, I know, there are some women who flirt and some who intentionally dress to provoke sexual arousal. But many times, the arousal is internal to the male…in short, it is OUR problem and it is up to adjust to it. We are to keep our hands and words to ourselves.

Feelings and urges do not have to be acted on.

And, it isn’t all about sex.

For example, my wife has a Facebook account and, from time to time, she will start a social/political discussion that gets very emotional. She flat told me to resist the urge to “ride in to save the day” when it appears that someone making a comment is being disrespectful. She is an accomplished professional; she does NOT need my help.

Workout notes:
Weights, 3 mile walk; yoga. Usual PT, pull ups (5 sets of 10; last one was 8-2 (narrow to wide grip), incline presses: 10 x 135, 6 x 155, 10 x 140, military: 15 x 55 seated, supported (dumbbell), 10 x 45 standing (dumbbell), 10 x machine (90). rows: 2 sets of 10 x 55 dumbbell, 10 x 110 machine.

Walk: West Peoria.

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November 1, 2017 Posted by | human sexuality, social/political, walking, yoga | Leave a comment

Does “what you are” matter to that “significant other”?

Something puzzles me. When it comes to romantic relationships, of course how one gets treated matters. But is that “all” that matters?

Personality matters too, but that isn’t what i am thinking about.

Do things like “this person is a professional” or “this person is educated” or “this person is a deep thinker” or “this person is knowledgeable” or “this person is liberal/conservative”, “religious/not religious” matter?

November 1, 2017 Posted by | relationships | Leave a comment

Beating Trump…

Yes, Mueller should continue his work and bring people who broke the law to justice. But I doubt this will remove Trump from office; after all, Congress remains in Republican hands and even if the D’s take back both chambers in 2018 (doubtful; ONE chamber is POSSIBLE) you still need 2/3 of the Senate for removal. And most Trump voters see this process as some sort of witch hunt. Our best bet is to win Congress and win that 2020 election.

I just hope that our purity trolls don’t blow the 2018 midterm elections for us.

Workout notes: easy 10K walk in the chilly morning hours.

November 1, 2017 Posted by | political/social, politics/social, social/political, walking | | Leave a comment